You argued before you got married, this is no different. You can, however, use the marriage as milestone to promise to fight better, more productively, and more honestly. This is a list of some of the common things that may trigger a newlywed fight, I’m sure you can relate.
Post-wedding blues. That feeling that all your planning and dreams are over. The end of the wedding is the beginning of the fun part. Don’t get wrapped up in the fantasy part. Enjoy all your first as a new couple and find joy in everyday life together.
Family. You may have upset family members from the start about the fact that you eloped. You now have two sets of people vying for your attention and free time. You cannot make everyone happy all the time. Be honest, don’t make promises you can’t keep and split up your time as you see fair.
Money. You can’t escape money problems. Maybe you spent a good deal of savings on travel or the wedding itself. Finances have a great deal of emotions attached to them and money pressures can easily make you turn on your spouse. Don’t avoid money talks, make plans you both can be on board for and set set realistic goals.
Expectations. This is made worse by social media these days too. All your friends own a house and you are renting, they are traveling to Cannes while you are hoping to find a cheap cabin on AirBnB. Who cares? Don’t let that girl you went to college with photos of #newlywed #soinlove #firstthaifoodasamarriedcouple distract you from the successes in your own marriage.
Be nice to each other and to yourself. Don’t let old points of contention creep back into your mind and don’t go for the triggers. It is easy to fight fair when you make a point to do so. And remember, arguing is a normal healthy part of any relationship!